THE BIG HEART OF FORGIVENESS

A 14-YEAR-OLD BOY HAD JOINED A GANG. AS A TYPE OF ENTRANCE EXAM TO PROVE THAT HE WAS A MAN, HE DROPED A RIFLE AND GOT ​​SHOT AN INNOCENT TEENAGE OF ABOUT THE SAME AGE. HE WAS CAPTURED, ARRESTED FOR MURDER, AND IMPRISONED. EVENTUALLY THE BOY CAME TO COURT. THE TRIAL ENDED AND HE WAS FOUND GUILTY. AND JUST BEFORE HE WAS TAKEN INTO PRISON, THE MOTHER OF THE KILLED BOY GOT UP, LOOKED STRAIGHT INTO HIS EYES AND SAID:

I WILL KILL YOU. AND THEN HE WAS LEAD AWAY IN HANDCUFFS.

AFTER SITTING IN PRISON FOR ABOUT ONE YEAR, THE MOTHER OF THE MURDERED BOY VISITED HIM. HE WAS CONCERNED AND SURPRISED. SHE TALKED A LITTLE BIT WITH HIM. AND WHEN SHE CAME BACK ANOTHER TIME, SHE BROUGHT HIM SOME THINGS HE MIGHT NEED. SOME MONEY TO BUY SOMETHING IN PRISON, SOMETHING TO WRITE. THEN SHE STARTED TO VISIT HIM REGULARLY. AND SHE DID SO THE NEXT THREE OR FOUR YEARS. WHILE HE SERVED A SENTENCE, SHE VISITED HIM AND TALKED TO HIM. BRIEFLY BEFORE HE OUGHT TO BE RELEASED FROM PRISON, SHE ASKED HIM: WHERE WILL YOU WORK?

I DON’T KNOW, HE SAID.

AND SHE SAID: I HAVE A FRIEND WHO HAS A LITTLE FACTORY. MAYBE I CAN HELP YOU TO FIND A JOB THERE.

AND THEN SHE ASKED: WHERE WILL YOU LIVE?

HE SAID: I DON’T KNOW. YOU CAN`T SAY I HAD A FAMILY BEFORE I CAME HERE.

AND SHE ASKED: WHY THEN DON’T YOU COME WITH ME AND LIVE WITH ME? THERE IS AN EMPTY ROOM IN MY HOUSE.

AND SO THE YOUNG MAN MOVED IN WITH HER AND STARTED WORKING AT THE WORKPLACE SHE HAD FOUND FOR HIM.

AFTER SIX MONTHS SHE CALLED HIM INTO HER LIVING ROOM AND ASKED HIM TO SIT DOWN.

THEN SHE SAID: I HAVE TO TALK TO YOU.

AND HE SAID: YES, MA`AM.

SHE LOOKED AT HIM AND ASKED HIM: DO YOU REMEMBER THE DAY IN COURT WHEN YOU WERE CONVINCED BECAUSE YOU KILLED MY SON? MY ONLY CHILD.

HE ANSWERED: YES, MA`AM.

SHE SAID: AND DO YOU REMEMBER THAT I SAID TO YOU THAT I WILL KILL YOU.

YES, MA`AM, HE ANSWERED.

“WELL, I DID SO. I HAVE SET ABOUT TO CHANGE YOU. I VISITED YOU IN PRISON. BROUGHT YOU SOMETHING. I MADE FRIENDS WITH YOU. AND WHEN YOU LEFT PRISON, I TOOK CARE ABOUT YOU AND FOUND A JOB FOR YOU AND A PLACE WHERE YOU COULD LIVE. BECAUSE I DIDN’T WANT THAT SUCH A BOY WHO HAD BEEN ABLE TO KILL MY SON COLD-BLOODED LIVES ON THIS EARTH. AND I DID IT: I HAVE CHANGED YOU. AND YOU ARE NO LONGER THAT BOY. BUT I DON’T HAVE A SON ANY MORE. AND I HAVE NO ONE ELSE. AND HERE YOU ARE. AND I ASKED MYSELF IF YOU POSSIBLY WOULD LIKE TO STAY WITH ME. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LIVE HERE FOR A WHILE SO I COULD RAISE YOU UP AS MY SON. AND I WOULD LIKE TO ADOPT YOU IF YOU WOULD AGREE.

AND SO SHE BECAME THE MOTHER OF HER SON’S MURDERER. BECAME THE MOTHER HE NEVER HAD.

FOR MOST OF US FORGIVENESS WILL BE NOT NEARLY SO DRAMATIC.

BUT REGARDLESS OF ITS EXTENT: WE NEED THE HEALING WATERS OF FORGIVENESS FOR OUR OWN BODY, OUR OWN SPIRIT. AND OUR OWN HEART!

FORGIVENESS IS A SWEET MEDICINE IN DIFFICULT TIMES, THAT RELIEVES US FROM THE PAST AND ALLOWS US TO START FROM SCRATCH.

IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO RECONSTRUCT ONE`S LIFE!

IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO FORGIVE.

Out of Jack Kornfield „On the Path of Healing – Free ourselves from our burdens through forgiveness“